"LET'S DEFINE CHILD SUPPORT"

It's been a long time, Good People! I promise to be brief on this one, but I have to bring this to you all so I can get this off of my chest. Plus, I need your feedback as usual.

I'm a divorced man paying child support. Let me repeat that. I'm a divorced man PAYING child support for my two sons. In an earlier blog, I mentioned how the court system and a judge had done me a grave injustice so I won't re-hash that part of it. I don't mind telling you that I pay and exorbitant amount of money monthly to my ex-wife. In all honesty, the amount is not that big of a deal to me because the money is (supposedly) for the care of my children. This is where my dilemma begins. On numerous occasions, my sons (whom I have EVERY weekend) have come to me in need of clothing, haircuts, new shoes, school supplies, etc. My question is "How is this so?" Believe me, the amount I pay in support is enough for my sons to get at least four sets of designer clothing and two pairs of "Air Jordans" A MONTH for each one of them ! That's right, I said each and every month. And once those purchases are made, they wo uld have enough left over to feed, clothe, and provide for a third child if necessary! This is the gospel, and for those of you who know me, you know I'm telling the truth.

So, this is my question to you all: IF, IN FACT, THE COURT DEMANDS THAT A MAN PAYS "CHILD SUPPORT", DOES THAT NOT MEAN IT IS FOR THE CHILD/CHILDREN? WHY IN THE HELL IS THE MOTHER NOT ACCOUNTABLE FOR THIS MONEY THAT IS DESIGNATED FOR THE CHILD/CHILDREN? IF MEN CAN HAVE THEIR FREEDOM TAKEN BECAUSE THEY DON'T PAY THE SUPPORT, SHOULDN'T WOMEN BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE/LOCKED UP FOR NOT USING THE FUNDS FOR WHAT IT IS INTENDED? WHEN THESE WOMEN DON'T DO THIS, IS THAT NOT A MISAPPROPRIATION OF FUNDS? Brothers out there, I know you feel me. I'm really interested in what the women have to say on this issue...................................................................